Hi, I'm new to this group. My daughter is 2 1/2 so she is still sort of a baby. I'm having a major problem with her hurting me. Kicking, hitting scratching etc. No amount of scolding, saying"no" or sending her to her room seems to help. She is just mean, and thinks it's funny to cause me pain. She doesn't do this to anyone else. Is this a common problem in the terrible twos or do I have a real problem on my hands?
Hi! Try checking out the link below. Copy and paste it on your browser and hit "enter." Hope it helps. I used to work with childcare workers and I have had my share of that situation. God bless!
Thank you for the suggestion. It was interesting, although I don't think that biting your child will help as one person suggested. Currently I am trying the ignore her behaviour approach, we'll see if it helps at all.
ah my friend my son is 11 months but i have over 11 neices and nephews, this is not the nrom but its not unussual either
it can be for countless reasons, lack of attention, A.D.D,A.D.H.D or other medical problems any of these things run in the family, medical or psych. such as addiction? cigarette smoking when preggers can also cause such things, maybe speak to you daughters peditrition go to website http://www.verybestbaby.com
I agree with the other poster who said this is not extremely unusual, but I think you need to be proactive to get this behavior to stop. Your child loves you, and really isn't mean, although I know it can seem that way. At this age, they just like to get a reaction/attention from you. I have found timeout, done like Supernanny instructs, to be really great at this age. If you send her to her room or ignore the hitting, she is not likely to get the message that this behavior is NOT okay. Ignoring it will let her think it's alright to vent her frustration on you this way. I think she is too young to understand "Go to your room." as a negative conseqence of her actions. Toddlers, like anyone else, won't stop doing something unless they are given a good reason to stop. I suggest SuperNanny's website - she loves kids and knows what she is talking about. Also, the American Academy of Pediatrics is a really great resource on all kinds of child-related info.
If you are still having a problem, I suggest you try as I did, a timeout that she cannot get out of. I actually had to start using the highchair as a timeout spot until she learned what timeout meant. I set the timer and put her in the highchair, and that gave her a chance to kick and scream in a safe place and me a chance to tend to my wounds and not do something in return. As for the biting, to break her of that, I did end up having to bite her back, I didn't resort to this until she started biting at daycare to get her way, and she was almost kicked out. She's your child, you know her best, do what you feel will work for her. She may be too young to send to her room, but she's not too young for you to start removing things from her room, that has worked well for me as well.
Good luck, and know this, the tantrum filled 3's aren't much better!! So find a way to punish the negative, and reinforce the positive now, you'll be needing that in the coming year!
Children always need attantion. It is almost definate that they will want it at inconvenient times. If they don't get positive attention,,,,negative will do! I don't recommend biting her as that just says that biting is acceptable under certain circumstances. Try giving her special one on one time. Explain to her that Mommy is busy right now, but that you have something special to do with her when you are done. Tell her what it is and when it will occur. Kids are a lot smarter than people think and she will understand. Keep in mind that 5 hours later is an eternity to a two year old...if you don't want another biting incident, give her something to do while you are busy that will make her feel important. You can't just let a 2 year old to their own devices for more than about 10 seconds!!! Also when she does bite... a time out that is enforced is a great idea! Remember that the rule on time out is one minute for every year of age. So 2 minute time outs are enough. Good luck!
I agree with brenda Don't result to thinking your child has a medical problem! Give her time and consistency with whatever disciplining you do. I run a daycare with plenty of two year olds and explaining to them in a calm yet effective way when placing them in time outs works! They are young but they DO understand! Explain to her that if she gets out of timeout before its done she will sit again and reinforce the reason she is in timeout! Biting maybe her way of showing aggression or anger and keep instilling the issue that it is not okay to bite yet reminding her that mommy loves her and biting hurts! Good luck I will think of others ways I discipline and relay it to your issue.
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