If I may, I'll tell you about my "unchurched" life. I have been a born again Christian for over 30 years and have never gone to a church more than a couple times. The Lord fed me, and guided me, and filled me with His Holy Spirit. But recently everything (except my faith) started to fall apart. By His grace, a few months ago I attended Calvary Chapel and my eyes, and heart, and mind were opened, and are still being opened more. God is now working overtime to restore my wasted years. Church is not just to be "fed" but also to "feed others." And in my case, just to sit in a room with fellow believers is more than enough. I don't think I will ever not go to church again. I may not think I have anything to "give" but then I see someone who needs just what I have - if only a smile or a handshake. I had been a selfish fool for so long - but Jesus loves us beyond our comprehension. I agree with you also that we also must serve outside the church. My co-workers (mostly nonChristians) and my neighbors and unchurched friends are also part of my "ministry." I find "church" to be the place I am refreshed and restored to be able to face the world we live in. The darkness of this fallen world is getting so dark, it is almost impossible to go it alone. ~ Elaine (Faithfilms)