I NEED ADVICE FROM ANYONE N EVERYONE. MY NIECE IS 15-16 AND LAST NIGHT I WENT TO BRING HER THE MOVIES I BORROWED FROM MY SIS AND THOUGHT I'D PICK HER UP FROM WORK N GIVE EM TO HER. WELL..... I WAS LATE SO I DECIDED TO GO STRAIGHT TO MY SIS'S HOUSE N BRING EM. ON MY WAY THERE I SEE MY NIECE WALKING DOWN THE ROAD SMOKING!!!!!! SHE IS A GOOD KID, SMART GOOD GRADES SAVES HER MONEY VERY MATURE! BUT SMOKING??? SHE USED TO BE SO ANTI SMOKING WHAT HAPPENED? WELL WHEN I SAW HER I SAID GET IN, SHE SAID NO ITS ONLY A FEW MINUTES HOME SO I GAVE HER THE MOVIES AND WENT HOME. NOW I WAS TALKING WITH SIS AND DEBATING ON WHETHER OR NOT TO TELL HER, IM THINKING MAYBE ITS A PHASE? OR MORE LIKE HOPING IT IS. SHOULD I TELL HER MOM N DAD? I KNOW FOR A FACT THEY WILL LOOSE THEIR MINDS ON THIS ONE, BRO IN LAW ALREADY GOT MAD AT ME FOR HIS DAUGHTER DRINKING COFFEE AT 13 AND THEN BLAMING ME FOR MY SIS STARTING SMOKING AGAIN IM A BAD INFLUENCE! SIGH I NEVER WIN BUT HE NEVER SAID ANYTHING WHEN I GAVE HIM ADVICE ON HEALTHY EATING! GO FIGURE!
No way should you rat her out!! She’s going to do what she wants anyway and maybe even more if she gets in trouble for it.
We were all young once. I would talk to her and try and be a friend and explain the health consequences to her, tell her you will not tell on her and that you love her and you are just concerned about her and her health.
Be her friend and let her know if she ever needs to talk to you about anything she can build trust with her that’s what I always do in similar situations.
Iz I think I'd do what Alex said. Now that I think about it I have covered for my niece before when she was smaller. I just made sure I had a talk with her then and I have a feeling I will always do that when push comes to shove...Aunties can have a lot of positive influence on our nieces if we have a good relationship with them. If it was something that was immediately life threatening then I would have to let the parents know..
That's a tough one izzy, if u don't say anything and your sis finds taht u knew, she'll be upset with u and u do then your niece will feel u brtrayed her. the health issue is partly right but she's young and think that's forever away, but now if you tell her how nasty her teeth will get than that might put a scare in her, kids that age so vain, especally girls ...all i have to offer, sorry izzy. hope it turns out for u
I have been thinking since you posted this.The best I can come up with is let her decide what you should do.She will do what she wants so let the consequences be her decision. If she wants you to be quiet then she bears the responsibility when the truth comes out. The guilt will make her do what is right. Be sure to let her know the predicament you are in because of knowing she smokes.
i don't know if ratting her out is the right and i don't know if keeping to yourself is the right thing, it's a no win situation, U can have a talk with her and give her a timeline to confess to her parents and tell her, if u don't then i will. That''s one way to handle it.
I would talk to only her, tell her she only has this time to stop, after a few years she will not be able to stop so easy & the money!! Then tell her you love her:)
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